Some of the goals of therapy

To find ways to love and accept love

How to stop getting stuck in feeling bad about yourself

To create a fuller and happier life

To find ways out of helplessness and the feelings of being overwhelmed

To find a way out of the unnecessary pains, sadness, and losses in our lives

Tuesday, August 30, 2011


The feeling of being unwanted is such a terrible feeling.   Back in 1929 a psychoanalyst named Sandor Ferenczi  noticed a phenomena in his adult patients.   He found that the frequency in conscious experience of depressed and morbid thoughts and feelings and images was significantly connected to their experience of being unwanted in childhood.   Sometimes the essence of feeling unwanted is in the child's cry  "I should never have been born".    The real pain of loneliness often centers upon the history and depth of feeling unwanted.

For an interesting discussion of the some aspects of the issue see: