Some of the goals of therapy

To find ways to love and accept love

How to stop getting stuck in feeling bad about yourself

To create a fuller and happier life

To find ways out of helplessness and the feelings of being overwhelmed

To find a way out of the unnecessary pains, sadness, and losses in our lives

Thursday, July 12, 2012

"You're too sensitive"

When someone hears this declaration directed at his/her self, initially he/she will feel confused, misunderstood, and/or shamed.   The person asserting the "you're too sensitive", is trying to erase what the accused is pointing at - the messages the other may have been sending.   Usually, the person trying to erase is trying to cut off dialogue, to stall an inquiry into the possible messages being sent.  Often, this scenario takes place in childhood.  A major consequence of this kind of scenario is for the child to turn away from using his/her mind to articulate the complexities of human interaction and process.   Often this will mean the child will give up trying to understand what his/her tears are saying.   Yet, unconsciously the person often continues to sense meanings implicit in their interactions with others.   He/she is then left in a kind of haze and fog about the "real" and "fantasy".