Some of the goals of therapy

To find ways to love and accept love

How to stop getting stuck in feeling bad about yourself

To create a fuller and happier life

To find ways out of helplessness and the feelings of being overwhelmed

To find a way out of the unnecessary pains, sadness, and losses in our lives

Wednesday, August 17, 2011


 Some  persons seeking help through therapy often will say something such as "I don't want to dredge up the past just to end up blaming my parents".    This concern has many ingredients.  Often a major ingredient is that he/she is burdened with frustration, and anger and senses linkages with how they grew up.   The purpose of understanding the past which is alive in the present, is to get a grip on the conditions where we learned ways of living that don't work.  How these methods of coping and behaving are anchored in the stories of our early relationships.  And how the theories of living that emerged out of these relationships and stories are inadequate for are present lives.