Some of the goals of therapy

To find ways to love and accept love

How to stop getting stuck in feeling bad about yourself

To create a fuller and happier life

To find ways out of helplessness and the feelings of being overwhelmed

To find a way out of the unnecessary pains, sadness, and losses in our lives

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Workings of the Mind - Love

Love trumps entropy (at least in the short term - say a billion years)

Entropy is a concept meant to describe a process in which higher levels of organization decline to lower levels of organization.  Certainly when we look at birth and the gift of life each of us knows that the beauty and organization of the body and mind will return to dust.  So what stands against this bitter knowledge?
Momentary pleasure?  Genetic continuity?  Spirituality?  These "things" help the self in the moment.  But if   we take moments in which we experience being loved, or acting in a loving way and if we use these experiences as a "road sign" indicating a direction and a destination, then, I think, we have something to sustain us in the chill of the night.   When we hope that our children will do "better" than us,  avoid our painful mistakes, these kind of hopes are expressions of our implicit belief that love trumps entropy.   Each of us has witnessed some of the beautiful consequences of love.  What is even more true, is that we are not able to fully see or know the unfolding consequences of love.  How the effects of love ripple through unmet people both in our present time and into the future.