THE NEXT TWO THINGS
            After the last friends depart
                empty glasses and cups
              are collected and washed
the floor swept and that first night alone
                     the best I can do
               is the next two things.
                       Feed the cat,
                          Make the tea.
                       Braid my hair
           Discard the obvious junk mail.
               This is how to get through
                  when the light and dark
                   are completely different
                         slants and hues,
               when every  moment's routine
                  holds the unexpected news
                           of your absence.
                                Feed the cat.
                           Empty the dish rack.
                              Fold the blanket.
                   Clear the answering machine.
                     Pick up the empty can
                   tossed out by the mailbox.
                       Bless the dust which
                          can be wiped away,
             dirty laundry that can be washed clean
           the path that can be shoveled clear of snow.
                             Bless the hungry cat.
                                          Anonymous
For many of us facing loss, the night becomes the territory most difficult to get through.
Night is the time when we seek connection and protection and if not, then a quieting of  the mind - often by foolish ways.  Emptiness at night is a most intolerable feeling state.
I have two main purposes in developing this blog. I am a psychotherapist and am trying to reach out to folks who want to solve problems in real ways. Thinking together and feeling together with a person who cares can make all the difference in the world. . I also want to provide a place for discussing ideas about some of the ways our minds work, which I think can help people work on the struggles in their lives
THERAPY
Some of the goals of therapy
To find ways to love and accept love
How to stop getting stuck in feeling bad about yourself
To create a fuller and happier life 
To find ways out of helplessness and the feelings of being overwhelmed
To find a way out of the unnecessary pains, sadness, and losses in our lives
 
